Healing Unto Wholeness
Remember the Girl Within
Within you as a woman there is a little girl, who is here to open up, deepen together with her partner and be loved fully and completely as she is. It is easy to forget in the heat of things, but keeping this as a beloved remembering in the heart will help soften the sharing space. This is a reminder for your sharing partner too.
Remember the Boy Within
All men have boys within who need love, life is not complicated and neither is sharing with your beloved when this is taken to heart. It is not a sign of weakness to allow openeness, feelings, softness and vulnerability, especially in a co-sharing space with your beloved. You are in it together, co-parenting for each others child and ones' own.
Create a Meditative Space
The sharing space you create should be a place for just that, mobiles off, distractions off, healing-loving-meditative-atmosphere on. Same time each day creates rhythm for your body/mind. Give yourself this gift of sharing daily. It will grow on its' own if you water it and take care of it. If creating and holding this space is a priority it will give back a thousand-fold. Good to remember patience, Rome was not built in a day.
Create a Safe Space to Flower for ALL
Primus-modus is to create a safe space for flowering for ALL. This will help co-deepening to happen naturally and organically. As the sharing space deepens naturally, you will be able to hold the space even when deep, intense feelings are shared. Healing starts with feeling. Feeling moves into Being. Flowering happens when you move into sacred space, it cannot be forced or expected, it happens, it is beyond you, it is within you. It is available to all.
Co-Deepening into Coming Home
Remembering that going through whatever arises in body-mind-feelings is essential, not around, or avoiding whatever arises. Stuff comes up, trauma comes up, healing happens. Deepening happens by going through, allowing whatever comes and throwing expectations out the window. Each sharing is new. Each day is new, not as a euphemism, but as an actual lived experience. Let the sharing space surprise you. You cannot know what needs to be shared, or what may present itself for healing.
Walk Your Talk - Share What You Know
Sharing is not about talking 'about' things, or round-about-cliche-mind-chatter. Make it real, be real. Walk your talk, share what is actually bothering you, allow deep feelings to surface, share from your own experience. As your trust deepens with yourself and your partner, you can move into deep spaces together, you can literally, actually help each other to come Home, come back to essential nature. This is a gift from life, a gift for all involved in co-sharing, co-deepening.